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Relationship Experience: Positive or Negative?

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Recently I was reading an article that questioned how relationship experience affects a person’s success in a relationship. By experience it was discussing how many relationships the person had been in and how serious the relationships were. People who have been in more serious relationships have more experience than those who have been in fewer less serious relationships. So should you be looking for someone with a lot of relationship experience? Do people with more experience make better mates? I think that this question is a toss up. There are both advantages and disadvantages to being in a relationship with … Continue reading →

When You Absolutely, Positively Cannot Stand a Customer, Client or Colleague

I am, by nature, a very positive person. So, I can get pretty resentful when individuals bring out my “negative side.” And, while I am a grown-up and I know some of the basics of diplomacy and how to cope and deal with difficult people—every once in a while there is someone who I absolutely, positively, do not and cannot manage to like. What then? I have found that the few people who have set my teeth on edge are normally pretty negative people—those individuals (colleagues, clients, customers) who gripe and whine about everything and anything, refuse to take responsibility … Continue reading →

Marriage Tips: Jealousy is Not a Positive Sign in a Relationship

When we think of someone getting jealous, we think that it means they must really care about us. Jealousy is not a positive sign in a relationship though because jealousy is a very negative emotion. The idea that you can test someone’s love for you by flirting with another person and that how your spouse reacts is an indicator of their love is not only faulty, it’s dangerous. Jealousy has its roots low self-esteem and fear. People are more likely to be jealous when they don’t believe they are lovable or that they are not worthy of being loved. They … Continue reading →

Relationship Dynamics: Avoid Jealousy

Jealousy is perhaps one of the most unattractive feelings a person can experience. You may think it’s one of the worst things that can happen to a relationship, but it happens to a person before it happens to a relationship. When the green-eyed monster affects a person it can change their behavior, triggering a nasty attitude and unkind words. Snippy comments can become vile and jealousy itself can alter perceptions of the person experiencing it. Suddenly, everything a spouse does can be seen as suspicious. Even the most normal of behaviors, things that would not be seen as out of … Continue reading →

The Pros and Cons of Co-Parenting

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There are times when the “happily ever after” ends in divorce. When this happens, couples who are parents must sort out custody and visitation rights. Co-parenting is an option that may work out well for couples that can get along with each other post-divorce. There are also situations where co-parenting just isn’t going to work smoothly. Positive Aspects of Co-Parenting There is a celebrity example of what co-parenting looks like when it works well. Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony split up in 2011. In 2015, they posted on Instagram a family photo from the birthday party of their 7-year-old twins. … Continue reading →

Evaluating Your Self Worth

Do you constantly focus on your weight, appearance or ability to perform in a negative manner? Are you always comparing yourself to other moms and coming to the conclusion that you suck at raising kids? Do you regularly dismiss compliments and continually find yourself checking with others before moving forward with projects or decisions as they relate to your home or family? If you answered “yes” to any of the aforementioned questions, you are not alone. A new study shows an increasing number of moms suffer from low self-esteem. In addition, researchers found that stay-at-home moms experience self-worth issues more … Continue reading →

Special Needs Podcast Roundup – Week of November 1, 2011

It is time for another Special Needs Podcast Roundup! This is where to find brand new episodes of your favorite podcasts that are focused on topics that are relevant to parents of children who have special needs. It is also a good place to discover new podcasts that you have never listened to before. The Coffee Klatch has an episode that was released on October 30, 2011. This episode is called “Dr. Orville Easterly- Marriage and Family Therapy”. Dr. Easterly is the founder and Clinical Director of Life Source, Inc., counseling center. He has decades of experience counseling as a … Continue reading →

My children’s perspective – “Discoveration”

I went for a walk today with our youngest daughter, and I decided to use that small bit of alone time to talk to her about her feelings and thoughts about the adoption. In our house there is always someone else around, and I realized that I hadn’t had a chance to really talk about this one-on-one with each of our children. So I figured it might be a good idea to ask them each how they felt, during a time when there wasn’t anyone else around to put words in their mouths or interrupt them. When we have talked … Continue reading →

O, What an Outlook on Marriage!

O, what an outlook on marriage! Os turn for the spotlight in the marriage blog as today we look at some helpful Os. Outlook The first one is not surprisingly outlook. If your outlook regarding marriage is negative then it doesn’t augur well for a good start to your marriage. Sadly, some people do have a negative or cynical view of life, love and marriage. This can become quickly very wearing if you live with it day by day.Your outlook on marriage will affect the marriage you end up with. Your outlook needs to be positive, expecting marriage to be … Continue reading →

My Favorite Adoption Book Reviews of 2009

Last year, I wrote about my favorite books I reviewed in 2008. Here are favorites from the children’s adoption books I’ve reviewed this year. (These are books which I’ve reviewed here in the Adoption Blog in 2009. They may have been published in prior years.) In My Heart, by Molly Bang, is a wonderful book for any child. It’s a story of her mother telling her child that throughout the various activities of their separate days, he is always in her heart—and his parents, friends and teachers are in his heart too. The child pictured looks Indian or Latino and … Continue reading →